Why to be afraid?

Why to be afraid? por self improvement 0

Why to be afraid?

One of the biggest defense tools our mind has is the ability of being afraid, an instinctive reaction especially developed to keep us alive in a hostile and potentially lethal environment, Such defense makes us have three possible attitudes: paralysis – search for more information in order to make a decision –, fight – elimination of threat –, or escape – exit of action field. We feel special fear of the unknown, of whatever has no connection to our experiences or our sensitive world, which helped our ancestors think twice before entering the dark cave, but disturbs when we face new routes in our lives, for instance. Therefore, many times, we prefer to get stuck to something relatively bad, but familiar, to search for new alternatives. This mechanism of defense has worked very well while we needed to worry about concrete survival questions; however, with the increasing complexity and subjectivity of our lives, we have brought these mechanisms to areas in which these self-protection sensations are not necessarily applicable. The elementary structures of our brain are constantly alert to shoot almost instant reactions towards what can be considered a threat and whenever we feel fear; our brain understands that it needs a certain reaction in face of similar situations, repeating and reinforcing
The weight of vulnerabilities por self improvement 0

The weight of vulnerabilities

Each one of us has a unique contribution to offer the world which, many times, does not become reality for several reasons, making people spend a life of routines and circumstances that do not lead to the building of our legacy at all. Factors such as fear, anxiety, insecurity, lack of self-knowledge, low self-esteem, and negative experiences contribute to the building up of limiting beliefs that halt people from being free to dream and perform deeds that are meaningful of our experience on this planet. Many of these mental and emotional ties come from vital vulnerabilities of several different kinds: intellectual, emotional, social, sexual, physical, financial, and so on, in which people find themselves in some risky situations, imprisoned in some logic that does not let us act according to our purposes in life, repeating behavioral patterns that reinforce whatever we believe in (or have learned to do so), which generates a vicious circle of numbness not rarely without any perception of either surrounding limiting factors or ways to get rid of them. Fact is that only freedom makes one shine. Freedom in all senses: to love, feel, think, act, and exist authentically. Any kind of prison veils talents, gifts, and true

An atmosphere for decisions

por leadership, self improvement 0 comentários We are daily hit by a great deal of information, and, consciously or not, the environment we are in influences our decision making. We are taken to connect to mental patterns built by stereotypes created by our experiences in such a way that we start feeling, thinking, and making decisions according to the meaning of that connection in our system. An important aspect is that the lack of science of influence of the inductive agent does not imply the missing effects over a person, which enables the use of environmental elements to influence someone or even ourselves in the adoption of certain behavior, feeling or thought. According toMaria Konnikova, writer of Mastermind (2013), “when it is sunny (...) people say they are happier and more satisfied with life in general than when it is rainy – having no idea about the connection between these things; they do believe they are ready as individual when they see the sun shining in a blue sky (…)” She also says that  “when it is cloudy, investors tend to make decisions away from risk; however, when the sun comes, the number of choices of risk increase. This concept may expand to other atmosphere factors such as light, leia mais